Once upon a time I had small children. My life was full and busy. Sometimes I resented the demands put on me by motherhood, but most of the time I cherished and enjoyed it. I actually had children in my home for 37-years. There’s a big spread between my children. Their ages are 37, 30, 24, and 21, and I took care of one of my grandchildren for awhile who will be 12 in November.
My children are all grown now and my granddaughter spends most of her time with her mother, which is a good thing. I am finally, at the age of 58, basically an empty-nester. My 24-year old son still lives with us, but he’ll be leaving for the mission field soon.
These days, instead of making breakfast and waking kids up for school, I wake up to a quiet house. I make myself some coffee, turn on some instrumental worship music, and start my day with a devotional. To young mothers, that probably sounds like heaven and some mornings it is. Other mornings, not so much.
I try really hard to not make my life completely about my children, to have hobbies and other interests. I don’t want to be that mom that falls apart without her children to take care of. Now is the season to be just me again; rediscover passions and interests that there was no room for while raising children, reconnect with my husband in a whole new way and actually have time for him, deepen my relationship with Jesus and spend more time with HIM. The world is my oyster again!
That’s my attitude some mornings, but other mornings, like this morning I find myself mourning the loss of my young children. I miss them! Their laughter, their sweet little faces, watching them play together, the way they’d sit in my lap and say adorable little kid things, and their pure love for their mommy. Those wide-eyed little faces saying, “I love you, Mommy!” God, I miss that! I miss seeing things that I’ve seen a million times, brand new through their eyes. I miss so many things!
My youngest is 21-years old! He’s technically been an adult for three years now and still, from time to time, I find myself heart-broken and crying. Will it always be like this? Will there always be these moments of mourning? I really don’t know because I’ve never been here before, in this empty nest. They come to visit, children and grandchildren, but it’s not the same is it?
Some mornings the peace and quiet is really nice, and some mornings not so much. Moments of mourning show up uninvited. The question is will I let them in and visit awhile or will I embrace this new season of life and shut the door on them until they stop coming? Good question.